But! In the spirit of the blog's name, I will share the following:
- one more of our children is no longer in pull-ups at night
- it's possible I previously wrote a blog post celebrating all three of our older children being out of pull-ups; that post was premature.
- Hanes's interest in potty training < 0.
I guess I should be grateful that, for the first time in more than five and a half years, I really truly have only one in diapers.
Kids in my family potty train late. Our sisters' kids also maintained a firm commitment to diapers for... a long time. My sister has been the best role model about this, and didn't even try to potty train her kids until I don't know when. Maybe when they were ready, or something crazy like that. I realized how brilliant this was when Miss A's early interest in potty trained waned by her 2nd birthday, and her refusal to potty train became the biggest thing in our relationship. I tried giving up. I tried going cold turkey. I tried rewards. I tried ignoring. Nothing worked. People, I wish I could tell you how long this continued.
After that disaster, compared to the harmonious potty training of my sister's sons, I decided on a more relaxed approach with the boys. Unfortunately, Jason decided it was time to get them out of diapers just after their 3rd birthday. They did much better than Miss A, or else I might not have survived it.
So here I am with Hanes. She is almost 40 months old. She is too small to get up on the toilet seat, even with the aid of a stool, so I have the potty chairs out. I hate potty chairs. I also hate pull-ups. Hanes also hates potty chairs. She'll pee on the potty, but won't poop on it. And if we talk too much about pooping in the potty, she won't pee either. She'll just hold it until we're not looking.
Maybe I should schedule a weekend day to play with her all day long inside the bathroom. But that makes me want to die for multiple reasons. How much Dora can I take? How much bathroom can I take? How much whining can I take? My odds aren't good.
The good news is that she has plenty of room in size 4 diapers and she isn't growing, so I have quite some time before I have to worry about planning ahead and buying my diapers from anywhere besides the grocery store. The bad news is that preschool starts in 6.5 months and I don't think that's enough time.
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The WonderTwins only started using the potty so they could go to pre-school. I was beginning to wonder if we were going to have to start buying Depends. Luckily, that didn't happen. We still use Good Nites. Gah....
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If she pees regularly on the potty, call it a day and pat yourself on the back. I'm guessing she will hold the poop in until she's good and ready, so she probably won't have accidents in the panties, especially if she's eventually in the preschool environment and might be uptight about bm's at school. We're going through bm/potty issues right now, and my girl is 4+. If you want to send her to a preschool program and she's not fully potty trained, pretend like she is and then claim surprise when the school calls you. You can blame it on the change in her daily routine/environment/teachers/whatever.
ReplyDeleteWhat happened here is this, I spent our retirement on potty books, potty videos, and potty chairs. I camped in the bathroom with H, sang potty songs, narrowly avoided death by banging my head on the toilet until it didn't hurt anymore (first time that has happened when I hadn't been drinking) and generally tried every method you can think of. Positive reinforcement? Done. Reward chart? Done. Reward Candy? We went there too. H had no interest. My aunt came over one day and said, "H, when you are using the big boy potty, I am going to buy you a Mickey Mouse airplane." 20 minutes after she left, "Mommy, please pull my diaper off because I have to go pee and poop in the potty now, like Aunt R told me to." All that work, and all he really needed was someone other than me to tell him they wanted him to defecate on a toilet.
ReplyDeleteJen, you know I'm no expert. But I'd wait until she's ready. For Anna the catalist on being ready was when her incentive was to go to big kid Sunday school. Start over in the summer when she can wear only real underwear. Give her m&m's after every time. Have the other kids come in and clap and cheer for her. And all summer long pump her up on the idea of preschool and how awesome it is and how only big girls who wear underwear get to go. Once you go to underwear then don't go back to pull-ups until bedtime even if it is a 7 underwear pair day. I also made Anna walk up the stairs to her room each time she had an accident to get a new pair. I made it not so fun to have an accident.
ReplyDeleteAnna would have never potty trained if she used pull-ups because she could care less about being wet. The other problem for her is being distracted on the computer or tv and not wanting to stop. I still have to read her ques sometimes and pause a tv show or pull her away from the computer to go.
Best of luck - it is complete suckage, I know.
I borrowed the DVD Potty Power from the lIbrary and although it makes me wish I had a hearing aid to turn off mads has had sucess over the last week. I used the no stress approach... If she wants she will... If I want she won't...
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