"The big question I have for you is how frequently you would like to engage in relations vs. your husband? I have a feeling my hubby and I would be on very different schedules!"Yes, my husband and I are on different schedules too. My preferred schedule would be approximately once a month, maybe twice a month if I'm feeling slutty. My husband would prefer to do the deed more often, which is why he's adding avocado to everything he makes me this week.
My husband accuses me of pulling the old bait-and-switch -- while we were dating, I preferred more frequent bouts of doing it. But when we were dating, I didn't have all these kids looking to me as a role model, and therefore I drank quite a lot of alcohol. It was a different, less inhibited time. Then came the years of my body being not entirely my own. Between pregnancy and breastfeeding, that amounted to about two years when Miss A was born, and my next stretch was more than four years since the boys were still nursing when I got pregnant with Haney.
Oh yeah, I don't have that excuse anymore. But now I've got a business that is sucking me dry. (Did you like what I did just there? With the breastfeeding parallel? NAILED IT!)
So anyway, that's what makes the weekly win such a fabulous prize. The stakes are high.
How does it work for you, blogworld? Are most of you scheduling it for once a week, whether you like it or not? Do you get your freak on daily? And more importantly, are you and your luvvah on the same page regarding the number of times you hit it during a given fiscal year?
We don't really have to talk about sex, blogworld. It makes me feel squeamish too. Let's pretend this post never happened and go watch some "Powerpuff Girls."
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Wow. Wow. I can't even answer that question. Wow. You rock, girl.
ReplyDeleteWe don't schedule it. Maybe we should LOL
ReplyDeleteAnd what does avocado have to do with it?
I read something recently that said scheduling it was a good idea, but not LITERALLY scheduling it, just thinking "tonight I am going to get some" and then acting accordingly.
ReplyDeleteFor me I'd say probably once a week would be good.
ummmm....once every six months? not kidding!! and that's fine with me ;)
ReplyDeleteOhmyjebisgod. I am with you. Never would be the optimal answer, unless some hot guy in Vanity Fair strikes the mood. Ask me again when my two year old isn't currently happily ensconsed in my bed.
ReplyDeleteIt's been more infrequent than either of us wants but it's hard to get up the motivation. I need to try and schedule or as the PP said just act on it more frequently. Another big problem for us is that I usually go to bed earlier and am asleep when DH comes to bed. So that leaves weekend naps as the only available time. But I'd rather be watching TV or running errands. Funny how sex is so important when you are dating and then drops so rapidly post kids!
ReplyDeleteWell I don't know what to say on this one, other than I do love me some Powerpuff Girls! It's an old joke with a couple of old friends, and I'm probably the only loser who still wears a PPG tshirt. But hey, at least I have kids now and can be more justified (???) about wearing cartoon characters from time to time.
ReplyDeleteOn a related note, not sure the cartoon character wardrobe is good for the s-e-x drive???
Bwhahaha!!!
Okay, I don't want to be all Dr. Ruth-ish, but the more you do it the more you want to. I'm not even kidding. When we go like a week without I start to lose interest, but once were back in the saddle I want to ride (sorry, couldn't help it) more often. Its kind of like when you don't realize how hungry you are until you start eating. I think that was another bad analogy. You get the gist.
ReplyDeleteI only see my hubby once a month or so.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Kortney. There was a period where I would have sex with my husband about once every week or two, whether I wanted to or not (and I usually didn't want to).
ReplyDeleteIt actually became a big problem in our relationship. I started being more affectionate in general with him throughout the day and once I made a concious effort to do that ... the sex part came naturally.
We do it much more often now ... and I even want to. It's really been a transformation for me.
I risk upsetting my husband since you two are related, but...well, I won't go into specifics. I'll say that it isn't as frequent as we would like it to be. We're working on that issue currently (well, not CURRENTLY). It's a struggle with the outside world pulling you every which way. I also agree with Kortney. The more you do it, the more you want to. (at least with me) The thing is--I do want to stress how important it is. It's a connection. It's heat and it's intimacy...and it bonds you. Yes, other things bond you as well, but that close, hot, shared breath that you have...the feel of each others skin...the grand finale--all of it is a love drug. We all get dragged into the day to day--but we fell in love with our lovers. We daydreamed about them. We got excited by them. We got butterflies. Why would I want my marriage to be any different? Bring on the passion and heat!! The world is just too cold without it!
ReplyDeletewhew! time for a shower!!
Sadly, our overbearing World of Warcraft raiding schedule most often takes the place of our sex life. By the time we're done raiding, sleep is more of a priority. We maybe fit it in about once a week, maybe twice if he's lucky. The connection is important, otherwise I probably wouldn't bother.
ReplyDeleteI have little to no sex drive. I think it's because I'm so f**king tired. Plus it just feels like something else I have to do. Does that make me a bad person. Probably. Should I be putting out more. Probably. I would be happy with once a month too. My hubby would be happy with once a week but would perfer every other day. Of course, all men perfer more. Don't you think?
ReplyDeleteThere are times that I think I could go the rest of my life without sex and be okay with that. Sad I know. It's not hubby either because otherwise we have a great relationship. He's very, very understanding about it and I "try" to work myself up for it at least once or twice a month. For the last few years I've had the excuse of pregnancies, breast feeding, extreme exhaustion but that can't last forever. I'm seriously contemplating talking to my Dr. about some type of hormone replacement or meds I can take because this can't be normal. I even joke with DH that it would be nice if we could get a sister wife. Let her deal with the kitchen and the bedroom. And yes, even I know that's pathetic.
ReplyDeleteMy husband hasn't tried since I was about 4 months pregnant but I'm due soon and I've already decided that about 2 months post pregnancy it will be at least once a week. Not because I necessarily care but because I know it is important. Plus I will be able to drink so that will make it easier. BTW I tell my husband that nothign gets me hotter than a picked up house/kitchen and since we have a nanny who actually does some housework he totally benefitted (which is one reason I'm pregnant). :)
ReplyDeletehahahaha, Mommy Esq., now THAT is a strategy!
ReplyDeleteHubby here would like it more than I would, too. I would probably be happy doing it like a dog in heat during ovulation period and then nothing or once in the rest of the month. My sex drive is totally reproductive, which is a problem since we do not want more babies right now.
And every time we do it it is great and I think I will want more tomorrow, but then tomorrow comes with life stuff and we stay up late working or reading and then two weeks go by until the next time.